Many couples become emotionally distressed when they face conception problems. These negative emotions breed more negative thought forms, which then reinforce other unpleasant feelings even leading to depression.
Getting a grip on our negative mental ‘chatterbox‘ (our mental self talk) and preventing depression before it creeps in can make a huge difference for many couples and improve the odds of natural conception (even in difficult cases). Establish a positive thinking attitude! Try to act pregnant now to get pregnant later. Thinking and acting like one is pregnant is key to having a positive attitude.
Amazing new research shows that the brain does not know the difference between a vividly imagined situation and something that is (or has) actually taken place—so it’s key to take advantage of this, for the sake of your fertility! For some people, getting into a positive frame of mind is easier said than done, so … what to do?
1. Identify
This is what it is, identifying a negative thought when it sneaks up. “I’ll never get pregnant” is a common example of one such negative thought. Once you’ve learned to notice the negative thought forms, identify what’s triggering them.
2. Redirect
This is simply replacing a negative thought with a positive one. For example, replace “I’ll never get pregnant” with “I’m sure I’ll be pregnant soon.” If you allow yourself to keep thinking negative, then only negativity will come to you!
Instead of putting all your energy into “woe is me,” try picturing yourself in the midst of a healthy pregnancy and then embracing the healthy baby of your dreams! Visualize you and your partner cradling a beautiful infant. Imagine those first flutterings of new life. The more you get into it and the more real you make it in your mind, the more chance you have of ‘coaxing’ your body into that reality.
3. Take time for yourself every day.
Even if it’s five or 10 minutes where you put your feet up and zone out, it allows your body a quick recharge. When your life centers around trying to conceive the focus changes to the end result instead of the process. Don’t forget you are a part of the process, and it’s important you remain healthy, clear, and balanced.
4. Surround yourself with positive words and phrases
If you are having a hard time staying positive during preconception, then put up note cards with positive words and phrases on them. At least you will read them and your brain will take note of them several times a day. Place one on your bathroom mirror, on your computer, in your car, taped to the back of your cell phone, etc. Repeat them aloud or in your head. Use words such as “create,” “beautiful,” “healthy body,” “balanced,” “normal cycle,” “healthy eggs and sperm,” “healthy cervical fluid,” “regular ovulation.” Try phrases such as “I am a healthy woman.” “My uterus and ovaries are ready to create a baby.” “My partner and I are wonderful parents.” Try using any word or phrase that makes you smile when you see them.
5. Break the Monotony
Many couples, who have problems conceiving, often find themselves sexually bored, which can lead to relationship problems and increases the chance of depression. If sex is allowed to become nothing more than a means of making a baby, it can quickly lose its fire!
Try to keep loving fun! Sex should be a private celebration of your love and passion for one another, so try to keep some spontaneity and enjoy each other! For the past twenty years numerous studies have been conducted regarding the effects of stress and negative thinking on human fertility.
Findings have indicated that relaxation techniques including meditation, along with positive thinking techniques dramatically increased the odds of conception.The power of the mind is an amazing thing. Our very lives are oftentimes the result of our own thought patterns, whether they be positive or negative ones. When you think wholeheartedly upon something, you put energy into that thought form, which it in turn released into your environment. What we focus on expands… so think fertile!
6. Eliminate the negativity around you.
Connect with positive people, read positive books, watch happy, positive movies. Don’t let negative people or images drag you down while you’re trying to conceive. Create healthy boundaries and buy yourself a “no” button. It’s OK to say “no” and put yourself first.
It is very easy to get negative when trying to conceive. We all carry around our own beliefs about how easy it will be to get pregnant. Many of us believe that you simply stop birth control and you instantly get pregnant. Contrast with the fact that the average woman only has a 20 to 25 percent chance to get pregnant—less if she’s older—and many will be disappointed and maybe even a bit worried with their first try. For those having problems conceiving, there is the monthly cycle of disappointment and hope which can really wear you down.
Getting a grip on our negative mental ‘chatterbox‘ (our mental self talk) and preventing depression before it creeps in can make a huge difference for many couples and improve the odds of natural conception (even in difficult cases). Establish a positive thinking attitude! Let's act pregnant now to get pregnant later! Thinking and acting like one is pregnant is key to having a positive attitude.