November 09, 2016


How to share the big news with your child

The arrival of a new baby can bring many changes to a family. Parents spend a lot of energy on preparations, and after the baby arrives, much of the family's attention involves caring for the newborn.

All this change can be hard for older siblings to handle. It's common for them to feel jealousy toward the newborn and to react to the upheaval by acting out.

But parents can prepare kids for an addition to the family. Discussing the pregnancy in terms that make sense to kids, making some arrangements, and including kids in the care of the newborn can make things easier for everyone.

Here are some ways to share the big news:

Sharing the news

  • Books about babies and being a big brother or sister can help with explanations. Be honest, and keep the words simple.
  • When giving them information about the due date, use timing they are used to (for instance, a holiday or summer break).
  • Depending on your child’s age, tell him or her what to expect when the baby arrives. (“The baby will be cute and fun, but he or she will not be able to be a playmate immediately. The new baby will take up some of ‘mommy’s’ time.”)
  • Share the excitement of the new baby with your child, as some of this may rub off. Tell them they will be the big brother or big sister and how special that will be.

Preparing for the arrival

  • Allow your child to be involved in preparations…picking out clothing, blankets, toys, etc.
  • Try to spend extra time with your child prior to the arrival of the new baby.
  • Prepare the child for your hospitalization by verbally telling them, but also make plans for family or a friend to stay with the child.
  • Time other major changes, like potty training or changing from crib to bed, for before the baby arrives or after baby has settled into the new family.
  • Once the baby arrives, allow your child to help care for the baby (like assisting with feeding or diaper changes, for example) if he or she child is old enough.
  • Make sure that special time is reserved for you to spend with the child after the new baby’s arrival.
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October 25, 2016


Pee Prophets

In the mid-1500s, something called a pee prophet existed. A pee prophet was someone who allegedly could tell if a woman was pregnant by looking at her urine. Apparently the urine of a pregnant woman is pale yellow with a fog in it.

October 24, 2016


A Little Bit of History

One of the Egyptian pregnancy tests involved a woman sitting on a bunch of mashed up dates and beer. If she threw up a lot, it was assumed that she was pregnant. This test was also on to something because pregnant women are particularly sensitive to bad odors.

October 20, 2016



The first urine-based test dates back to 1350 BCE in ancient Egyptian society. Women would pee on a field of wheat and barley. If the wheat sprouted, it was going to be a girl. If the barley sprouted, it was going to be a boy. If neither sprouted, the woman wasn’t pregnant. 

October 18, 2016


Some Tips for the Two-week Wait


The waiting part of infertility SUCKS. And there is SO MUCH waiting. For many peoplethere are years and years of waiting. But the two-week wait sucks in its own special way. During those two weeks, you feel hopeful and terrified, both at the same time. You feel nervous, excited, and somehow, you feel both great and miserable. You know that maybe this time will be “the one.” This IUI will finally be the one that works! But then you also know, it could just be another failed attempt. And then the cycle begins again, and you sense time and chances slipping away.

So. Emotionally. Draining.

Regardless of the circumstances, for women trying to conceive, the two-week wait is bound to be emotionally stressful… no matter how many times you endure it. I would even venture to say that it becomes a bit more stressful and emotional each time you have to go through it.


None of these tips will magically take away the roller coaster of emotions that accompany waiting, but after lots and lots of two-week waits, I have compiled a little list of things that, for me, make the waiting a bit easier.

1. Stay busy, but not too busy. You don’t want to be so busy that you are stressed out… you are already stressed enough! Try to keep busy with things that you enjoy. Use hobbies to fill down time. For myself, if I do not fill my down time with something, I just use it to worry. Worry, of course, only leads to more stress. Fill quiet moments at work with quick prayers, or do a few stretches while sitting at your desk. File your fingernails. See? Keep busy with little things that are also enjoyable and productive.

2. Spend as much time with family as possible. I would have spent every second of this two-week wait surrounded by my family if it had been possible.

The timing of our most recent IUI was actually really wonderful because, the day of our IUI we were able to head to Nashville to spend a week with my family. The very next week, they were able to come down to Georgia for the weekend. On top of that, Andrew has been home EVERY DAY of this two-week wait, since he just went back to school today. It made me realize that being near family makes an enormous difference. The time did not pass any faster, but it was more enjoyable, and I felt more myself than I have during two-week waits when I have been isolated from family.

Make lunch dates with your husband if you work apart all week. If you cannot actually spend time with your parents, siblings, etc., make it a priority to spend time chatting with them on the phone. This is a good area to get creative with, since life often pulls us away from our families. Use these two weeks to reconnect.

3. Take extra-good care of yourself. Do this by making sure you get enough sleep at night, making healthy food choices, and making exercise a daily occurrence. For me, setting aside a quiet time for myself each day is an essential part of self care. If you can spare twenty minutes, then use it for you! I spend my twenty minutes on my yoga mat with my Bible. You may choose to spend yours differently, but it is important to take wonderful care of your body, mind, and spirit during these two weeks.  Doing this will make you more pleasant to be around, so you are doing your family a friends a favor too!

4. Be aware of your emotions. This will also make you more pleasant to be around during the course of the next two weeks. I know that I am SUPER emotional during this season of my life. Being conscious of this helps me bite my husband’s head off less, and it helps me realize that when I think my husband is biting my head off, he probably isn’t. Be aware that you are very sensitive, and offer grace to others when they fail to cater to you. It’s not all about us!!!

5. Give Google a rest. During the two-week wait, I continue following blogs, and keeping up-to-date on other women’s infertility journeys, but I avoid Google. It contains too much conflicting and worrisome information. Being overloaded with information that you do not know what to with can just become another stressor. A totally unnecessary one. If you feel the need to research during the two-week wait, stick to websites and bloggers that you already know and trust.

6. Stay away from Facebook. For me, this also breeds anxiety. Sometimes it breeds something even worse than anxiety: jealousy. It also has the power to occasionally make me feel worthless, ugly, and unfit to be a mother. None of these feelings are from God.

7. Don’t share the details of your situation with anyone who does not need to know. This will lessen the amount of crappy “advice” or “encouragement” you are bound to receive during the next few weeks. Do share with trusted loved ones, and/or a best friend. Because, somehow, it does help to talk about it out loud! Since it’s all you think about anyway…

8. DO NOT test early. As difficult as it will be, just force yourself to wait two weeks, at least.

9. If it’s nice outside, get out there as much as possible. Walk the dogs, sit on the porch and read, lay at the pool, tend your garden, feed the ducks at the park. Being outside helps my mood, it helps me to feel energized physically, and it helps calm and focus my mind, which makes for great prayer time.

This leads me to the biggie.

10. Pray without ceasing. There is no human in this world who knows exactly what you are feeling, or what you are going through. Even other women who have experienced infertility will not know how YOU are experiencing infertility. They can love you, and sympathize, but they can never know what you are living through or how you are feeling. But God does. He knows every emotional that you have ever felt, and every emotion that you ever will feel. He knows your pain, He knows your frustration, He knows your sadness, and He knows your heart.

He’s got this.

“Celebrate always, pray constantly, and give thanks to God no matter what circumstances you find yourself in.”
-1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
October 13, 2016


October 12, 2016



The latest research shows that the most fertile days are one and two days before ovulation. The chance of getting pregnant on the day of ovulation is less that 1 in 10, but two days before ovulation it's 1 in 3 - three times higher! The day of ovulation is not the most fertile because of the short life of the egg, only 6 to 12 hours. So don't make the mistake of waiting too long to "baby dance" ))).

Trying to conceive a baby can be tougher than it sounds.  Making a baby should be as simple as having sex, but that’s not always the case.

A man's sperm can live for up to five days inside a woman’s reproductive tract.  A woman’s egg only lives for about 6-12 hours after it is released.  This means that a woman’s egg needs to be fertilized within this 6-12-hour time frame.  Furthermore, freshly ejaculated sperm are not able to fertilize a woman’s egg.  It takes time for a process known as capacitation to occur.  Capacitation is series of changes that sperm go through once they are inside a woman’s reproductive tract that make sperm more mobile and allow them to penetrate the egg.  It can take up to 10 hours for a man’s sperm to complete the capacitation process and be able to fertilize a woman’s egg.  This is why the five days before ovulation are so important.  Once ovulation takes place, sperm have a very brief window of time to fertilize the egg.  Having mature sperm (sperm that have gone through the capacitation process already) ready for the waiting egg is the key to successful conception.

The day of ovulation: You might have heard or might believe that the best day to get pregnant is the day that a woman ovulates.  It is important to know when you ovulate and to try to time intercourse close to ovulation, but the day of ovulation is not the best day to get pregnant.  Researchers have studied the timing of sexual intercourse in relationship to ovulation in order to determine which days are the most likely to result in pregnancy.  Surprisingly, according to research published in the Journal of Reproductive Medicine, what they found was that the day of ovulation was not the best day of a woman’s cycle to conceive.

The day before ovulation:  Interestingly, the day before ovulation is actually a better day to conceive on than the day of.   This may be because sperm that are ejaculated the day before ovulation have had time to mature and reach the egg.

Two days before ovulation:  Even more interesting, researchers have found that a woman’s chance of conceiving two days before ovulation is just as likely, if not more likely, as the day before ovulation.  What this means for couples trying to conceive is that timing intercourse to occur a couple days before ovulation and the day before ovulation will give them the greatest chance of conceiving.

October 10, 2016



With ovulation prediction, the average couple under 35 is pregnant in less than three months, especially if they've had sex at the right time every cycle.

October 08, 2016



Let's say you successfully predicted your ovulation, done the horizontal mambo at what you think was the right time, and wait. Wait is no fun. However, you don't want to waste your money and emotions doing pregnancy tests too early. So, when is the right time to test for pregnancy?

According to North Carolina study, the average implantation time was 9 days past ovulation. It takes two or three days after implantation for the embryo to make enough HCG for a home pregnancy test to work.So that means the majority of women won't get a positive until 11 DAYS past ovulation.

October 04, 2016


Gum disease can increase the time it takes to become pregnant

Gum disease could significantly delay the chances of conceiving, fertility specialists have found.

In the first study of its kind, researchers found women with gum disease took an extra two months to get pregnant compared with those who had healthy teeth and gums.

So, take care of your teeth and gums!